{"id":9493,"date":"2020-12-08T13:42:57","date_gmt":"2020-12-08T13:42:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/justiceandpeace.nl\/?p=9493"},"modified":"2021-05-17T08:01:32","modified_gmt":"2021-05-17T08:01:32","slug":"a-growing-friendship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/justiceandpeace.nl\/en\/a-growing-friendship\/","title":{"rendered":"A growing friendship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Samen Hier Rotterdam: how Sanne and her daughter Saar became friends with the family of Anis and Houda from Syria.<\/h2>\n

Written by:\u00a0Patrick van Wersch<\/a>
\nTranslation: Yvonne Conradi\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

As a remedial educationalist, Rotterdam-based Sanne Vink works with children and adolescents in need of treatment and a listening ear. Her relationship with the children of Anis and Houda Abdulmajid from Syria is different. The families, both part of the Samen Hier Group \u2018Together Groos\u2019, share their family lives with each other.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cOur favorite thing to do is being outside together\u2019\u2019, says Sanne (36). Like the other day, when she and her 2.5-year-old daughter Saar visited a park in Rotterdam West with Houda and her youngest, Rital. While the children were enjoying themselves in the sandpit, Sanne and Houda were catching up with each other on a park bench. They talked about the kids, but Houda also talked about Damascus, the life there, and their escape to the Netherlands. She showed videos of the city before the war on her phone. At times, Sanne heard her stories with astonishment: \u2018\u2019They\u2019ve had such a hard time, but every time I see them they are cheerful.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

Anis\u2019 and Houda\u2019s loud laughs are a symbol of the family\u2019s cheerfulness, according to Sanne. \u2018\u2019A sense of humour and a positive approach to life is important to the family\u2019\u2019, she says. The parents stimulate all six children to participate in Dutch society. They give them confidence, including their 12-year-old son Mo, who has multiple disabilities. The two eldest children of the family are currently following secondary vocational training. Sanne: \u2018\u2019They gladly accept all help and really want to learn.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

This pro-active attitude is something Sanne also recognizes in herself. It was a reason for her to become a part of the Welcome Group \u2018Together Groos\u2019. She wanted to fill her changing life – having a daughter, being housebound because of the coronavirus – in a different way and share it with people that could benefit from it. Although Sanne comes into contact with refugees through her job,\u00a0 she knew little about the way they settle in the Netherlands. \u2018\u2019You don\u2019t just walk up and talk to someone and through my work it would create an unequal dynamic. I have found a deeper and equal relationship now.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

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The members of “Together Groos” during an outing.<\/p><\/div>\n

Being friends and not just taking control; it\u2019s a process. In September, the whole group went to the Maritime Museum. The Abdulmajid family does not own a car, so Sanne proposed to pick them up at home by car. The group decided otherwise. One group member went with \u00a0Anis, Houda, and the kids to the museum by metro. \u2018\u2019You have to stimulate self-sufficiency, instead of dependency\u2019\u2019, Sanne says in retrospective. \u2018\u2019That might mean that you have to suppress your first instincts and act like you would with other friends. That is not always easy, but eventually it benefits the mutual bond more.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

Sanne\u2019s intents to continue with the programme. In principle, you commit to the Samen Hier Welcome Group for a year, but she prefers not to set an end-date. \u2018\u2019You don\u2019t \u2018do\u2019 a friendship for a set period, it grows\u2019\u2019, she says. Every meeting with the family brings her something. \u2018\u2019I always come home cheerful and full of energy.\u2019\u2019 What Sanne also appreciates is the fact that her daughter experiences how friendship transcends cultural differences. \u2018\u2019An important lesson in our rather divided society\u2019\u2019, she thinks.<\/p>\n

A month ago, at the playground in Rotterdam West, Sanne\u2019s daughter bravely climbed one of the play structures. Houda encouraged her younger, one-year-old, daughter to do the same: \u2018\u2019Just follow Saar.\u2019\u2019 It struck a chord with Sanne. Two mothers, both raising a daughter, and a friendship that is becoming more and more natural.<\/p>\n

The Samen Hier Group \u2018Together Groos\u2019 consists of Sanne, Femke, Eva, Julia, Dorien, Tino, Maite, Iris and Rinske and the family Anis, Houda, Mo, Tamer, Jodie, Rital, Jihad and Kinan. <\/em><\/p>\n\n

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